Last day of winter break..

 It's been a week since my last post, and I am overwhelmed and stressed to the max! Luckily it is the LAST day of winter break before the girls start school back on monday.

It has been a very difficult week from outbursts/meltdowns to doctors appointments....


Several good things happened so it wasn't too terrible. I will explain

The week started out rough, and it got me missing my grandmother as she was always my first go to when I needed support. I smelled something funny, so I went to make sure our unit for heating/air was ok. As I rounded the corner of my house, on the corner of my property was a Blue Heron... the reason I mention this is because my grandmother LOVED watching the Blue Herons in the creek by my dad's house. Seeing the Blue Herons remind me of my grandmother, and as long as I lived in my house I have NEVER seen one on my property. This happened to be on the first stressful day with "S" having a meltdown. I like to think that my grandmother sent the Blue Heron to me, letting me know it would be ok.... gave me the peace I needed to be able to move on.

Last night I ran to the grocery store to pick up a few things while hubby stayed home with the girls. I was waiting in line and a few extra people came behind me as they were opening another register. I turned to the guy behind me and told him he was welcomed to go to the opening register. I only had a few items so it wasn't a big deal, considering that I was "taking" my time to get home. The young man and I started talking and told him that I was in no rush as I needed a little break. I explained to him that my daughter who is 9 had been diagnosed with ADHD, ASD, and SPD. As we both exited the store, he turned to me and stated that I was a great mom and he knew it wasn't easy to have a special needs daughter. Not a lot of people, tell me that they commend (not that it matters) for putting her needs before anything. 

Really makes you feel good when others recognize how difficult it is having a special needs child. I write this posts in hopes that someone needs to know that they aren't alone. We've all struggled being parents, and often forget about our needs. 

Keep up the good work as a parent; regardless of if your a mom of a child who has special needs or not. 

You got this; just make sure you take time for yourself!

Jenny

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