Journey to regain confidence and self care as a mom of a special needs child

It's Sunday evening,  After a long rough week that resulted in an ER visit, it was nice to be able to take my time and rest up. Friday afternoon I started developing severe pain in my abdomen, thinking I was a little blocked from too much iron and/or cheese. Pain was so bad again starting at 3:30 Saturday morning, and by 10am we called my father to come sit with the girls so Jr can take me to the hospital.  They ran several test, and found nothing conclusive. Sent me home with some pain meds and nausea medicine, and was told to rest up for a few days. My oldest daughter was out of her ADHD med, so that's most likely the cause of why she's been unfocused and harder to "control". But given today, we noticed how much more calmer she was until the afternoon. Jr set up the kids pool, and they got to enjoy it for a little while.  Here's hoping that this week is a little better as I am still recovering. 

A big part of self care is knowing your potential.  I was brought up being told that I can do anything that I set my mind to.  When we say things like, I can't do something.. it is limited our own beliefs in ourselves, it's not a matter of I can't; but I won't.  I absolutely refuse to give up, if it doesn't work the first time you have the power to change things so it WILL work! Special needs moms not only advocate for their children, but often enough we forget to advocate for ourselves. Remember that MOMS do have the potential to be and do anything we need for ourselves and it isn't selfish to put our needs first once in a while for the betterment of us and our children. Even moms of special needs children,  need a little coaching.

Monday, My house is a disaster; dishes from the weekend, bathroom remodeling, and both girls were very active with "sibling rivalry". Oh and not to mention I was pretty much a "single" mom because my husband had gotten called out most of the weekend.... I could have done A LOT of things differently but I became very overwhelmed, and I basically shut down. My anxiety and my little bit of OCD is extremely high again.  But it is a brand new week, and I am making a change to better myself so that I can create a postive atmosphere so we can lessen the behavior in the girls. I am hoping to take some time for me today, as I plan on working on my business more. But first once the girls needs are met, and they are satisfied.... it's cleaning day time to try and catch up. "S" will have her therapist here after lunch to work on behavioral needs, so that may help a little...

June 18th, I am going to start blogging more, giving my reflection on the previous week, but also what has helped me with some "coping". Be prepared as I continue my spiritual journey, I may have a few blogs on verses that I found to help me. So my reflection on this week was tough, first week out if school and my special needs child had a lot of challenges.  I definitely lacked on what is most important like self care and patience.  New routine is being established with my daughter and it was quite hard for BOTH of us to adjust. I've never been one to follow a written plan, I kind of go with the flow. I write them down, but keeping track of it with 2 girls is extremely challenging. I have one 10 year old special needs daughter and one 3.5 year old and they LOVE to "feed" off one another more than just the normal sibling rivalry. Our afternoons are usually worse, especially when trying to cook dinner or clean the kitchen.  I live in a 2 bedroom small house, I tr...

 Sorry its been a while since my last post; things have been very hectic as I'm sure that most of you know when you have a special needs child. School is officially over for the year and my daughter just had her moving up graduation; going from FOURTH grade (last year of elementary school) to FIFTH grade (beginning of middle school). Yes, I cried like a baby at her graduation! Not because I was sad she was growing up, but because of her accomplishments that she has overcome in the 5 years she had in elementary school. The struggles she had, were real even fighting through the "covid" pandemic and having a hard time adjusting to video conferencing when she needed the one on one assistance. I just had her sister a few months before the pandemic hit, and trying to get her to focus on her learning as a stay at home mom was very difficult.  Schools in our county opened up to the ones like my daughter who needed the assistance more so than the "normal" kids. And I am ...